October will be a busy month for me and my family. My daughter is getting married! So naturally, all I’ve been thinking about lately are weddings. You might think I would convince my daughter to have a Regency wedding, but – alas! – she’s always had a mind of her own. It’s too bad. A Regency wedding would have been lovely!
The Regency was a time of great drama and beauty, a time when lords and ladies were expected to marry well, but also a time when the concept of marrying for love had taken hold. From Jane Austen to Georgette Heyer to today’s Regency Romance authors, that concept of marriage for love is what we celebrate. At least my daughter’s wedding will be all about celebrating love!
Now, I was married a brazillion years ago, long before I started writing or reading Regency Romance, but after I started writing Regencies I realized I had actually had a Regency Wedding!
Here I am with my bridesmaids. Notice that our dresses are all empire-waisted. Notice the leg-o-mutton sleeves on my dress and the puffed sleeves on the bridesmaids dresses.
Now compare these dresses to two Regency Fashion Prints from the fashion magazines of 1815.
See the similarities?
I had a Regency Wedding!
Many Regency lords and ladies married in St. George’s, the church on Hanover Square in Mayfair, London.
My daughter didn’t want a church wedding, though. She wanted to be married outside in a garden. Too bad, because she might have been able to be married at the Prince Regent’s summer home, the Brighton Pavilion in Brighton Hove.
In a room like this:
Much too fussy for her, though.
But she did want a bit more fuss than those Regency couples who married in a hurry, eloping to Gretna Green, just over the border in Scotland. Here I am standing at the historic anvil. Regency couples were married “over the anvil” in Gretna Green. No, this isn’t another wedding photo. It is me with the tour guide at Gretna Green when I visited in 2005. I’m holding a copy of The Wagering Widowwhich began with a Gretna Green wedding.
Here are some quick facts about Regency Weddings:
Regency brides did wear white, but they didn’t have to. In the Regency, white gowns were popular for many occasions. Other colors like pale pink and blue were also worn at weddings. The older the bride, the darker the color. Wedding dresses were worn after the wedding, too. By the time Queen Victoria became a bride and wore white, the white wedding dress was well on its way to becoming a tradition.
Weddings could take place after reading of the Banns, a license, or a special license. Banns must be read for three consecutive Sundays in the parishes of both the prospective bride and groom. A license, purchased from the bishop of the diocese, did away with the banns but the couple still had to be married in the parish church. A special license, purchased from the Archbishop of Canterbury, allowed the couple to be married in a location other than a church and without banns. Licenses were never blank; different names could not be substituted.
Scottish weddings went by different rules. In Scotland couples could be married by declaring themselves married in front of witnesses, by making a promise to marry followed by intercourse, or by living together and calling themselves married.
Weddings could not be performed by proxy. Both the bride and groom had to be present.
Ship captains could not perform marriages. Couples could be married aboard ship, but only by clergy. (How many times have you read that plot?)
Brides had wedding rings; grooms did not. The bride could give the groom a ring as a wedding gift, but it was not part of the ceremony and didn’t symbolize he was married.
Lastly, here is a photo of my husband and me on our wedding day. Aren’t we cute?
I actually am very pleased at the choices my daughter has made and I cannot wait to share the happy day with her!
Has anyone attended a Regency-themed wedding? What was the last wedding you attended like?
I hope you’ll cross your fingers for me if you read this post by Saturday evening. My exciting news is that LORD OF MISRULE, my new release from last December, is a finalist for a prestigious 2019 Maggie Award as Best Historical Romance! And Saturday night is when the winners are going to be announced.
I was flabbergasted when I made the finals, but it is so thrilling that my first new book after a 16-year pause in my career has been so well-received. The other thing that makes this honor especially exciting to me is that I write “sweet”, and not only was this book competing with Historical Romances of all sorts of time periods, but it was also up against much hotter reads, which tend to be more popular.
I had the fun exercise of drafting what I’m calling my “fantasy thank you speech” which a friend at the Moonlight and Magnolias Conference in Georgia this weekend will deliver for me in the (rather unlikely) event that my book wins. But in that speech I mentioned that, ” Even though we are all writing about the emotional journeys our characters must take to arrive at deep and lasting love, omitting the explicit sex can make it harder to show the dance of attraction and doubt they go through.”
Thinking about “sweet” versus “hot” has made me think about all the kinds of risks we authors take as we try to do service to our characters’ stories. I tend to write unusual plots, and try to bring something fresh and different to each Regency story I write. Not all readers want that, of course! So it’s often a risk –and that tendency may be how I ended up here in the Risky Regencies sisterhood. Maybe over the coming months, each of us blogging here can talk about what she thinks is “risky” about the writing she does. I admit that I’ve been in a very “ruminative” mood lately, taking stock of where I am and where I’m going now that I am writing again.
What am I working on? Readers wanted more stories from Little Macclow, the Derbyshire village setting of LOM. I hadn’t planned on a series, but it turns out there is enough material there to mine. My current work-in-progress is a prequel to LOM, which I hope to release before or at least by December! It’s the story of Tom & Sally Hepston, who are already married when you meet them in LOM. Is it risky to write a series that wasn’t planned in advance? I guess we’ll find out!!
Do you read both sweet and hot romances? Do you like offbeat stories? What kind of risks do you see authors take, and which ones do you enjoy, or not enjoy?
The Lord’s Highland Temptation is available now as an ebook and mass market paperback.
Last year around this time I was in Scotland on Number One London Tour’s Scottish Writers Retreat. What a lovely experience! I simply had to put what I saw and experienced in a book. The Lord’s Highland Temptation is that book.
This book was also inspired by an idea I’d held onto for a while. Did you ever see the old movie My Man Godfrey? The original 1936 version starred William Powell and Carole Lombard. It was remade in 1957 with David Niven and June Allyson. A socialite passes off a vagrant as a gentleman and he becomes the family butler, with everyone in the family singing his praises–except the oldest daughter, who did not trust the man at all. In the end it is discovered the butler is a wealthy man and he and the younger daughter, who has idolized him the whole time, fall in love.
The movie bugs me every time I’ve watched it, because the screenwriters picked the wrong heroine! The tension was between the older sister and the butler. She was the one who should have wound up with him!
So I decided to rewrite that story and set it in Scotland in 1816. My Man Godfrey is a screwball comedy and my book is the sort of emotional story I always write, but I fixed that heroine problem!
This book has been getting some very nice reviews. It even received a starred review from John Charles in Booklist: “RITA Award-winning Gaston gracefully tips her literary cap to the classic film My Man Godfrey in her latest thoughtfully nuanced, sweetly romantic Regency historical. While she deftly explores such serious themes as family duty and survivor guilt, Gaston also celebrates the importance of kindness and compassion in our lives.”
Thank you, John Charles!
See more at my website.
Have you ever thought a movie or TV show picked the wrong hero or heroine?
I recently found out that the blog I’d posted this on (Popular Romance Project) has been wiped from the internet, causing a dead link on my website. So I’m reposting it here to preserve it.
One of the topics that comes up a lot among historical writers is what research books are essential. If you ask your top ten favorite authors, you’d probably end up with a pretty impressive research library (and I’d LOVE to see other authors tell us about their Must Have Books in the comments). Here are mine. I think these books are must reads for anyone wanting to create an authentic Georgian/Regency world, and I’m going to talk a little bit about why.
The Rise of the Egalitarian Family: Aristocratic Kinship and Domestic Relations in Eighteenth-Century England by Randolph Trumbach (1978; ISBN 0127012508; OOP, used ~$40).
When writing a love story, you need to understand the mores of the times. One of the many, many useful things that Trumbach does in this book is discuss the evolution of the love match as a social ideal in the Georgian period. It’s all bound up with the Enlightenment and the Hardwicke Marriage Act and the slow descent of the nobility’s dependence on land for their fortunes. By the Regency period, Trumbach maintains that the love match had ousted the arranged marriage entirely and was well on its way to trumping matches based on social advantage and monetary considerations. So if you want to have that tension between generations, this book is a great resource for understanding where everyone might be coming from in their viewpoint of what would be ideal.
This book is also the main source for basic information that we use in every book, such as the time periods for mourning, marriage settlements, consanguinity. And it features tons of information about basic domestic issues such as the role of wives in the family and the raising of children. Really, it’s just an all-round great book for getting a solid understanding of what was going on inside people’s everyday lives.
The Regency Companion by Sharon Laudermilk and Teresa Hamlin (1989; ISBN 0824022491; OOP, used ~$200, use interlibrary loan).
This is just an all-round brilliant book. It contains a wealth of information about everything from the Season and courtship among the ton to basics about how people lived such as the clubs men frequented, the theatres, roles of servants, etc. I just don’t know any other book that provides the information this one contains. It’s essentially foundational.
20,000 Years of Fashion by Francois Boucher (1973; ISBN 0810900564: OOP, used ~$12).
I simply don’t know a better survey book for fashion. While I’m obsessed with clothing, I don’t think everyone else needs to be, nor do I think it’s a wise place to spend your time considering, “With a small bit of effort, he undid her gown and it fell to the floor” suffices to get you where you need to be. But I do think every writer needs to know enough not to make any glaring errors, and Boucher’s summaries and careful selection of images are perfect for providing that little bit of knowledge you need (and since it covers pretty much all of European history, you don’t need to buy a new book if you decide you’d rather write Victorian settings, or Medievals.
The Family, Sex, and Marriage in England 1500-1800 by Lawrence Stone (1983; ISBN 0061319791: OOP, used ~$1).
Stone not only delves into the basic makeup of the English family (and he mostly talks about the upper class, “Barons and up” as he labels them), but he has great charts that provide vital information regarding the average ages at which people in this class married, how many times they were married, under what circumstances they were likely–and unlikely–to remarry, etc. This book provides a sort of grounding for the history of your characters’ families and a general understanding of how the most basic building block of society evolved and functioned. I would also suggest his Road To Divorce to anyone who wants to write about characters with broken marriages.
The British Aristocracyby Mark Bence-Jones (1979; ISBN 0094617805; OOP, used ~$10).
I love this book! It’s extremely insightful about how the aristocracy think of themselves, what matters to them, and what the origins of those feelings are. Bence-Jones is an insider who lays it all out for us. I found the section on “The Concept of the Gentleman” extremely enlightening and also highly recommend it for the chapter on “The Aristocratic Character.”
The Art of cookery Made Plain and Easy by Hannah Glasse (1774; free on Google Books)
Though you might throw food in with the unimportant minutia, I think that’s a mistake. The devil of historic world building really is in the details, and nothing throws a well-informed reader like potatoes in a Medieval setting or iced tea in a Regency (or indeed in any book set in England, including a contemporary!). And this isn’t something you have to spend years studying to get a handle on. Glasse’s historic cookbook is free on Google Books and contains hundreds of period recipes. Plus, it adds depth to get little things like this right, and it’s fun to have you characters eat Maids of Honor rather than just lemon cheesecakes (and it’s good to know that period “cheesecake” is pretty much a modern cheese Danish too).
Peerage Law in England by Sir Francis Beaufort Palmer (1907; free on Google Books)
This is a basic guide to how peerages are inherited, disputed, and granted, with many examples laid out so you can really understand it. This knowledge is ESSENTIAL if you want to deal with tricky inheritances. Yes, it’s a very dry book, but you really can’t hope to just muddle your way though these issues. Basic questions that this book answers come up on my historical writers’ loop all the time (the most common one is usually about a peer losing his title if it’s proven that he’s illegitimate, which simply can’t happen; all challenges have to be made BEFORE the title is granted, during the review of the claim).
Given all the ways dance mattered, socially and personally,
during the Regency, it’s obvious that acquiring the skills and training to
dance well (along with the proper etiquette) was supremely important. Skills on
the dance floor would not entirely make or break a young person’s future, but
they certainly helped.
Young ladies and gentlemen of wealthy families would usually
receive private tutoring from a professional Dance Master. These men would be
hired by multiple families and would travel from house to house to teach the
latest dances as well as proper steps, comportment, posture, and behavior.
I’m certain there was snobbery over just which dance master
your household had hired! One who was French and
had references from higher ranked families, or one who was well-known among the
ton and had published extensively,
would certainly be preferred over a relatively unknown candidate.
How their pupils felt about them
probably varied not only by how well they taught, but also by their age,
personality and personal appearance, and the ages of the young people they
taught. I can imagine young ladies developing a crush on their dance instructor
if he was a bit charming, but I also imagine the young girl you can see in the
back of the Cruikshank cartoon below thinking very un-ladylike thoughts about
hers while forced to stand in the “hip-turner” box (also known as turn-out
boards, or the torture box).
It was more properly called a tourne hanche, which betrays its French origins. Its purpose was to train the feet to turn outward at a wide angle, a ballet-like position you can see the others in this scene all maintain. The small, easily portable violin played by the dancing master is not an exaggeration by the cartoonist –it is called a pochette, or “pocket violin.”
The less wealthy could take classes at a dance academy (in a
large enough town), just as one might do today. Dance Masters strove for
prominence through publishing as well as through the success of their competing
establishments. Given a basic understanding of the main forms of dances, one
could purchase the latest books, which usually included the instructions for
performing each dance. Publications such as “Thompson’s 24 Country Dances for the
Year 1802” came out every year with new dances. The selection would vary
depending on who issued the publication. The most popular dances might be
carried over from year-to-year for a very long time, while some new ones might
be introduced to be danced to old familiar tunes.
The most prominent dance masters competed with each other,
trying to out-do each other with their offerings and credentials. In the
1820’s, established master Thomas Wilson and relative newcomer George Chivers
engaged in an infamous rivalry. A typical advertisement from The Morning Post
(13th November, 1818) reads:
Waltzing, Ecossoises, Quadrilles, Spanish Dancing,
Minuets, La Grand Polonaise, Gavottes, Country Dances, Swedish Dancing &c
— Mr CHIVERS, late of the King’s Theatre Italian Opera House, gives PUBLIC or
PRIVATE LESSONS and PRACTICE in the EVENING, from Eight till Ten, or Nine till
Eleven, or any hour of the day, MONDAYS, WEDNESDAYS, and FRIDAYS. Mrs Chivers
superintends the ladies in a separate apartment. Families attended. Professors
taught any department, and the greatest secrecy observed. Cards had at Mr
Chivers’ Academy and Assembly Rooms, No 7 Pickett-Place, Temple bar; where may
be had A Companion to the French and English Dancing, also the Swedish
Dances (which Mr C. has introduced into this country; its simplicity and
elegance surpasses all others, and is well adapted to parties having a majority
of either sex.) The Rooms may be had occasionally, which have accommodation for
200 persons.
Chivers’s establishment shared space with a Fencing Master, also a fairly typical arrangement, but one that pressed limitations on scheduling classes. I fancy a resemblance between Cruikshank’s dance master in many of his later cartoons and Chivers’s portrait from one of his own publications, although I’ve found no reference that this was intentional.
Trained older siblings could be pressed into duty to teach the younger family members when circumstances demanded economy. Dance would be among the subjects taught at finishing schools for young ladies and academies for young gentlemen. This lovely Hugh Thompson illustration is from a story (“Quality Street”) about sisters who start such a school.
Nor should we discount the role of observation, as anyone
attending an assembly or ball could watch others to study the figures (sets of
steps) of any dance one didn’t know. English country dances dominated during
the early Regency years. They are fairly easy, once you have learned a
“vocabulary” of the various figures, which appear over and over again in
different combinations for each dance. So learning the order in which they are
done for a particular dance would not be too hard.
Becoming proficient at the steps, however, could be more
problematic. Regency dancing is energetic, the steps precise. The “walking”
steps that many modern country dancers use were not the thing at all in period.
Practicing in front of the mirror
Dance footwork in the Regency era, even for country dances,
was closer to ballet. Jane Austen wrote of Fanny in Mansfield
Park, “Sir Thomas, having seen her walk rather than dance down the
shortening set, breathless, and with her hand at her side, gave his orders for
her sitting down entirely.” Posture, deportment, and above all, elegance,
were required.
Do you wonder if you would forget how to do one of the dances at a ball? You would not be alone. Many dancers needed a way to “crib”! How about carrying a fan with the latest dances printed on it? Or a discrete set of cards with the instructions, strung on a ribbon around your wrist or tucked into your reticule? Here are pictures of some of these period “memory aides” for dancing (helpfully offered for sale by the dance masters)!
The dances on this fan are:
• Captain Mc Lean – Whim of the Moment – Duke of
Clarences Fancy – Dreary Dun
• Paynes Jigg – Miss Dukes Fancy – The Fife Hunt – The
Birth day – Dibdins Fancy – Garthland
• Sir Alexander Dons – Ballata Waltz – Jem of
Aberdeen Waltz – The Harriot -The Highland Club
A similar set of cards in The Harvard Library’s Ward Theater Collection, designed to be threaded on ribbon and worn around the wrist, printed with dance instructions for the quadrille, 1815. Selling sets of such cards were yet another way the enterprising dance masters tried to earn their bread.
Speaking of dance cards, what about those little ones with a pencil with which you could write in your partners names? Did they have those in the Regency era?
In this 1820’s image of Quadrille dancers, one of the “waiting” women (at left) is clearly looking at her dance card. Is it to see what other dances are planned and to whom she has promised them? (She’s with her current partner -how rude that would be!)
The term “dance card” in English with the latter meaning is
dated 1892 by the Oxford English Dictionary –well past the Regency and even
Victorian eras. It’s a beloved tradition with authors and I may have even had
this wrong in some of my early books, but the answer is: NO. Prompt cards to
tell the dances, yes, but not to write in the names of partners, not until much
later in the 19th century. For one thing, tiny pencils were not yet being made!
And pens required an inkwell. But here’s an example of one from the 1880’s, and
a fun collection of such cards, dating 1913-1940’s, if you’re interested!! http://gettysburg.cdmhost.com/…/collecti…/p16274coll9/search
I hope you’ve enjoyed this series. Dance history is one of my great loves! If you have questions, I will be happy to try to answer them in the comments. Parts 1-3 of this series, if you missed them, can be found posted in previous weeks during July.